This weekend I took a hiatus from my two main social networking sites while I figured out just where I am stuck and what is missing from my life right now. I spent Friday morning in a bit of a funk that had been coming on for a few days. I had been feeling disenchanted and unenthusiastic about my training, my diet and pretty much everything for a few weeks. I decided to take myself off of Facebook and Sparkpeople for the weekend and spend the time I would normally be using those sites to focus on figuring out what is going on in my head.
For the most part, things in my life are awesome right now. I have made some really healthy changes and have started moving on the right path for me. But I have been feeling that there is something missing and I think I finally figured out what it is… connection!
Most of my interaction with friends and family is through technology now. Aside from my roommate and one friend from work, I rarely see my friends any more, even the ones here in Washington. And when we do communicate it’s through social networking sites, texting, instant messaging and emails. I need to make an effort to connect more with people on a regular basis and open myself up more.
I did take some time to venture out this weekend. I went out with my roommate and some of her friends to a club on Friday night to see the band Boxer Rebellion. I had a lot of fun, got a little trashed, and felt a lot better Saturday. I will be working spend more time with friends and to meet new people to get that in-person connection happening.
I am also missing connection on some other key levels… namely intimacy and spirituality. I had been exploring my spirituality for a while and was feeling some connectedness with a few different aspects of different schools of religious thought. Unfortunately I let that slip over the last several months and am really feeling that lack of connection to a higher purpose. I need to refocus on my explorations and return to meditation.
The final area of connectedness that is missing from my life is definitely intimacy. It has been a while since I have dated, even casually, and I am missing that feeling of closeness with another person. I have recently started considering exploring the world of on-line dating sites again, though have really had NO success with them in the past. For a long time I have said that if its meant to be, I will find the right person, but lately I have been thinking that I need to do just a bit more to bring that someone into my life.
Now that I have identified what’s missing, I need to find it and bring it into my life. To start, I am altering my use of social media… using Twitter and my blogging networks as my primary sources. I will remain a member of Sparkpeople.com, but will be using it primarily for encouragement and motivation and less as a tracking site for my workouts as I have been. I will keep my Facebook account open in order to share my blog and keep in touch with some people who are special to me that I communicate with primarily there, but I will not be spending a lot of time on the site and will primarily be checking in with just those people. I will also be getting together in person with my friends here in Washington as often as possible. Our work schedules do get in the way, but we should still be able to find a way to get together once a month or so. I am also going to start attending some local Meet-ups and see if I can find some connections that way. I will be returning to my spiritual pursuits, including meditation. And I will open myself up to the possibilities of dating… still not sure if I want to do the online thing again, but haven’t ruled it out…
How do you find connections in your life?